Post by: Garrison Polsgrove
Youth Discipleship Pastor at Shepherd Church
Have you ever driven someone else’s expensive car and the whole time you were driving thought to yourself, “I hope I don’t wreck this!” Consequentially you cautiously drive the speed limit and look fourteen ways before pulling out of a parking lot. Because the last thing you want to do is return something to someone worse off than how you found it and betray the trust they have in you.
Since you are not the owner of the vehicle you are careful to stay within the limits set for you and get nervous thinking about something happening out of the ordinary. The goal is to simply return it the way you found it. However, when you own something you go out of your way to make it better. You invest resources and time to care for the asset in your name.
The same is true when you take ownership of your D-Group. You want it to be the best it can be and thus you have intrinsic motivation to go above and beyond the status quo. When you feel you are in charge of the experience students have within your group you do not tolerate destructive comments and conversely strive to show your care in ways not suggested by others. Ownership is necessary for ingenuity.
In an effort to conserve energy and avoid the feeling of failure we look for others to tell us what to do because subconsciously we think if it fails we then have someone other than ourselves to blame. Thus it is tempting for us to refer to the “expert” in areas we lack experience. However, that is not an owner’s mentality. Owners place the mission above their feelings and seek to fulfill their calling instead of seeking approve from organizational leadership. Although leaders with an owner’s mentality may feel insecure with having a lack of experience, they are not afraid to fail to gain the wisdom needed for long-term success.
Listed below are the differences between owners and borrowers. Which one reflects your mindset in leading your D-Group?
- Owners operate with the goal of achieving the overall mission.
- Borrowers have the goal of feeling good after completing a given task
- Owners take calculated risks.
- Borrowers strictly follow the guidelines and suggestions given to them
- Owners see failure as an event to learn from
- Borrowers see failure as a reflection of their ability
- Owners create new ways of accomplishing the mission
- Borrowers do what they are told
- Owners are constantly thinking of new ways to show their students they matter to Jesus.
- Borrowers only think of their D-Group students from 6:14-8:30pm on Wednesday nights.
- Owners find their confidence in their God-given identity and thus are not afraid to fail
- Borrowers find their confidence in their performance and therefore fear failure.
- Owners appreciate constructive criticism.
- Borrowers contemplate quitting after receiving correction.
If you have discovered you have a borrower’s mindset in leading your D-Group do not be discouraged. We have all possessed a borrowers mindset once upon a time in various things. However, let me encourage you to see yourself as the sole leader, the owner, of your D-Group. Allow your heart to break for your students and strive to think outside the box in discovering new ways to show your students they matter to God. I have placed you as the sole leader in your group for a reason. I trust you…so own it!